Each Ceremony is crafted just for you. No two ceremonies are ever the same as I will give you many scripts and ideas and from those we will create your ceremony of love an commitment. You can bring all your ideas to the table and from there we will create your unique Ceremony
Simple Ceremony 2023 – Bride and Groom – Partner & Partner – your names will be included here. I celebrate all paths to love.
Welcome, love has gathered us here on this beautiful day in this lovely and special place in nature ( the location is named) to join Bride and Groom in marriage. To be with them and rejoice with them they as they make their commitment to one another The beautiful commitments that will begin their new life together as husband and wife.
Bride and Groom thank you for coming to witness their expression of love, their commitment, and their joy.
(Short grounding meditation to take in the beauty of the day and the location we stand in and or prayer if you like.)
Bride and Groom, you have the opportunity in your marriage to create a place a refuge for each other’s hearts. You have the opportunity to support each other from a place of love in each and everyday of your lives together. It is important that you make your relationship, your marriage, your highest priority no matter what demands are made upon your days. And that you commit to keeping your hearts open to love by being patient, present, kind, compassionate, and curious about the other.
To be known, loved and accepted in this way, by the one you most love and respect, is a one of life’s most precious and extraordinary gifts.
The essence of the commitment you are about to make is the choosing of another person in his or her entirety, as lover, companion and best friend. It is therefore a decision, which is not to be entered into lightly, but rather undertaken with great consideration and respect for both the other person and oneself.
Bride and Groom, there are no ties on earth so sweet and tender as those you are about to assume today. There are no vows so beautiful as those you are about to make. There is no institution on earth so sacred as that of the home you are about to form in marriage. You are linking your lives in the closest possible relationship. Your separate lives, with their own memories, hopes, aspirations, and dreams are being merged into one on this wonderful day.
I will begin with your vows by asking these questions of intention.
Groom, do you choose Bride to be your wife, to love her, to honor her, to comfort her, and to cherish her from this is day forward? I Do.
Bride, do you choose Groom to be your husband, to love him, to honor him, to comfort him, and to cherish him from this day forward? I Do.
Bride and Groom’s promises have been shared in their hearts and they will be spoken before us now.
(If you want to share vows with one another they would be included here.)
Bride and Groom will now exchange rings as symbols of the unbroken circle of love. Love freely given has no beginning and no end, no giver and no receiver for each is the always the giver and each is the receiver.
(Groom, please repeat after me). Bride, with this ring I give you my heart and I join my life with yours.
(Bride, please repeat after me). Groom, with this ring I give you my heart and I join my life with yours.
Groom and Bride – Having pledged your love each to the other before this company present, by the authority vested in me. I now pronounce you husband and wife.
Groom, You may kiss your beautiful and precious Bride!
May your life together be filled with peace, harmony, happiness, and grace. And may your love over the years grow even deeper than it is today.
On this Beautiful Day, it gives me great pleasure, honor, and joy on this beautiful day to be the first to introduce you to however you want to be introduced. _______________________!! Congratulations!
Simple Ceremony – To Celebrate your Love – 2023 (for couples who have been together for many years.)
Welcome, we are gathered here on this beautiful day at this location to unite Bride and Groom in marriage. We are here, then, to celebrate the love and commitments between Bride and Groom which has been evolving and deepening over the years. For them the stars have finally aligned and it is time to get married.
They have made their commitments to each other many times over the years of their relationship – today is the day that they decided to formalize those commitments.
They thank you their family and or friends for coming to witness as they make their commitment to one another and to love. You all mean so much to them – that is why they wanted to declare their love for one another before you.
Before we go further, let us all become quiet in our minds and present for this moment. Now take a moment to listen to the river …..experience the big blue sky, the ponderosas pines trees, the warmth of the sun on your skin, feel the slight breeze, and hear the birds. Feel the ground that supports you and the beauty of this day. Pause in Silence for a moment to experience the beauty and the grace of love.
Today is an exciting day for Groom and Bride as they know their marriage will be based on mutual respect, trust, communication, and romance.They want to continue nurturing each other as friends, lovers, and partners in life. They want to remember each and every day – how grateful they are – to have found each other and how wonderful it is that they now get to create a life together in marriage.
They are both fully dedicated to supporting each other to be the best people and partners they can be. They love that their love will only deepen and grow if they continue to keep their hearts and minds open to love.
Bride and Groom since, you have different approaches to life, like all couples, you will have the opportunity to learn new ways to navigate and embrace your differences by remaining curious, kind, and compassionate in your marriage. And that you remember that your differences make them you stronger and a more balanced couple.
Together you will feed each other’s values and dreams – in your marriage and you will create a life of love and commitment that is uniquely yours. By doing so – you will be able to honor and hold sacred space between you – by being loving supportive, understanding, and living from impeccable integrity.
We are here, then, to witness as they make their commitments of lo ve to one another.
Bride and Groom have shared their commitments with one another many times over the years – today their vows and promises will be spoken for all of us to hear. Groom will begin followed by Bride.
Groom and Bride, you will now exchange their rings as symbols of the promises you have made here this day.
(Groom, please, repeat after me.) Bride, let this ring remind you that I chose you, and will always choose you, to be my partner in love and in life.
(Bride, please repeat after me) Groom, let this ring remind you that I chose you, and will always choose you, to be my partner in love and in life.
Bride and Groom, having pledged your love each to the other before your loved ones, by the authority vested in me. I now pronounce you husband and wife.
Groom/ Partner , you may Kiss your most beautiful, Bride!
In closing, Bride and Groom – may you be happy, loving, and kind in your marriage. May you be at ease and feel safe and protected. May you love the life you are creating together in marriage. May you learn to love your differences and know they bring strength to your marriage. May together may you support your children as they find their way in the world. May you remember to have many fresh starts and new beginning and may you fall in love over and over again!
Ladies and Gentleman – Family and Friends – On the is beautiful day it gives the greatest of pleasure to introduce you to_____________________________. Congratulations!
Coming Home to Love and Nature 2023 – Bride & Groom or Partner & Partner
Welcome, Love has gathered us here today at this most beautiful location in Central Oregon your location – to witness and celebrate the beginning of a whole new adventure and chapter of life for Bride and Groom They love the expansiveness of nature and how it makes them feel and how it supports them in becoming who they were meant to be.
When you experience the mountains and nature together, it evokes awe and splendor. It is indescribable and immense. It is the same feeling that they discovered when falling in love. They love that being in love, you get to grab a piece of transcendence and take it with you in your daily life. You don’t have to trek to a river valley or to the top of a mountain to feel something important and indescribable; you can feel the beauty and enormity of the mountains within your own heart. That is really why they are committing to marriage today to truly experience the expansive nature of life and love.
Hence, that is why they have chosen this location for their ceremony and why they moved to Oregon two-years ago. They truly wanted to come home to who they truly are and to live a life they have always dreamed of.
Before we drop further into the ceremony – Let us take a moment to take in the beauty that surrounds us – let us take in the sky – the mountains, the trees. Let us take time to slow down and become present for love, goodness, connection, and for Bride and Groom. And to acknowledge what has brought us all together on this beautiful Day. We are here today, then, to recognize and acknowledge a deep and forever growing bond of love between Groom and Bride. Today, we will take the time to celebrate how important love is for all of us. I believe when we were children, it was easy to see magic in the world; now we need days like this to remind us – of the power, magic, and the beauty of love – found within us and which surrounds us.
All of us I believe – long to be seen and loved for who we are. All of us want to find a place in this world that we can call home. We yearn to be committed to another and to belong. We long to be loved for who we are and we long to feel safe so that we can take risks and become truly ourselves.
In a loving marriage, you have the freedom to show up and be present for what life is offering in the moment.
In a loving supportive marriage, mistakes are encouraged and acknowledged as the steps necessary in becoming and experiencing life fully. In a sense, marriage is an essential part of life’s journey as like nothing else it allows us to become our best self and gives us the opportunity to give our gifts to the world. A marriage that lasts is one which is always developing and in which each person is individually developing, while growing in understanding of the other.
To be known and accepted in this way, by the one you most love and respect, is perhaps one of life’s most precious gifts.
Groom and Bride, committing your hearts to each other – gives you the opportunity to practice love daily, by being gentle, kind, compassionate, and curious about each other. It allows you to show up fully and to make each other’s life better. Bride and Groom, on your journey of love, I invite you to keep your extraordinary love alive; to grow, to change, to maintain the capacity for wonder, for spontaneity, for humor: to remain pliable, warm and sensitive. I invite you to give fully, to show your real feelings, to save time for each other, no matter what demands are made upon your day.
I invite you to see the meaning of life through the changing prism of your love: to nurture each other to fullness and wholeness, to take time to experience the beauty of life in the moment. And I invite you to love yourselves and each other more deeply with each new day of your life together.
We are here then, to celebrate Bride and Groom’s union – therefore they now wish to make their promises and commitments to one another.
Groom, please repeat after me.I, Groom, choose you Bride to be my partner in life and in Love. I promise to be true to you and to myself. To be honest in my actions and words. To support you in all your endeavors. To be your strength in need, Comfort in sorrow and a companion in joy. To love, respect, and honor you and To hold sacred our marriage from this day forward.
Bride, please repeat after me. I, Bride, choose you Groom to be my partner in life and in love. I promise to be true to you and to myself To be honest in my actions and words.To support you in all your endeavors To be your strength in need, Comfort in sorrow and a companion in joy. To love, respect, and honor you and To hold sacred our marriage from this day forward
Bride and Groom now wish to exchange rings as symbols of their love and commitment.
Groom, please repeat after me. – Bride, I give you this ring as I give you my heart. I love you.
Bride, please repeat after me. Groom, I give you this ring as I give you my heart. I love you
As a symbol of Groom’s unity and commitment they will now plant their unity tree. ( Walk to the tree – start planting and I will share these words with you.)
Groom and Bride, Let your relationship and your love for each other be like this tree you plant today. Let it grow tall and strong. Let is stand tall during the harsh winds and rains and storms and come through unscathed. Like a tree, your marriage must be resilient. It must weather the challenges of daily life and the passage of time. And just like the tree you are planting, marriage requires constant nurturing and nourishment.
Bride and Groom, since you have showered our hearts with expressions of your love, and promised that your marriage will be a place of honesty, transformation, and love. By the authority vested in me I pronounce you husband and wife. Groom, you may kiss your most beautiful Bride!
In closing, Bride and Groom, as the years pass – remember when you witness pure beauty – pause to be amazed and allow yourselves to experience those feelings, that are deep and beyond words, which are indisputable and timeless. Remember to be breathless and fulfilled and amazed by the life you are creating together. No matter how much you think of yourselves as rational, logical human beings, allow yourselves to forget reason and simply feel something. Let yourselves wander and wonder. Chase the unknown and cherish each moment of your life together. And may your Love like a river cut through any obstacles that may try to impede your way forward. And just like the River may your Love flow with grace, ease, and without end.
Ladies and Gentlemen – Family and Friends, It gives me great joy, honor, and pleasure to be the first to introduce you ______________________________
Intimacy
Here are 10 ways to create true intimacy, find pure love, and be truly happy in your relationship:
How do you create a loving connection in your relationship?
1. Use relationships to teach you how to be whole within.
Relationships aren’t about having another person complete you, but coming to the relationship whole and sharing your life interdependently. By letting go of the romantic ideal of merging and becoming “one,” you learn as Rainer Maria Rilke says, to love the distances in relationship as much as the togetherness.
2. See your partner for who he or she really is.
The romantic tragedy occurs when you view the person you are in love with as a symbol of what they have come to represent, the idea of them. When you realize that more often than not you don’t really know your partner, you begin to discover who they are and how they change and evolve.
3. Be willing to learn from each other.
The key is to see the other as a mirror and learn from the reflection how you can be a better person. When you feel upset, rather than blame your partner and point fingers, remain awake to what has yet to be healed in yourself.
4. Get comfortable being alone.
In order to accept that love can’t rescue you from being alone, learn to spend time being with yourself. By feeling safe and secure to be on your own within the framework of relationship, you will feel more complete, happy, and whole.
5. Look closely at why a fight may begin.
Some couples create separateness by fighting and then making up over and over again. This allows you to continue the romantic trance, creating drama and avoiding real intimacy. If you become aware of what you fear about intimacy, you’ll have a better sense of why you’re fighting—and likely will fight far less.
6. Own who you are.
We generally grasp at romantic love because we’re yearning for something that is out of reach, something in another person that we don’t think we possess in ourselves. Unfortunately, when we finally get love, we discover that we didn’t get what we were looking for.
True love only exists by loving yourself first. You can only get from another person what you’re willing to give yourself.
7. Embrace ordinariness.
After the fairy-dust start of a relationship ends, we discover ordinariness, and we often do everything we can to avoid it. The trick is to see that ordinariness can become the real “juice” of intimacy. The day-to-day loveliness of sharing life with a partner can, and does, become extraordinary.
8. Expand your heart.
One thing that unites us is that we all long to be happy. This happiness usually includes the desire to be close to someone in a loving way. To create real intimacy, get in touch with the spaciousness of your heart and bring awareness to what is good within you.
It’s easier to recognize the good in your partner when you’re connected to the good in yourself.
9. Focus on giving love.
Genuine happiness is not about feeling good about ourselves because other people love us; it’s more about how well we have loved ourselves and others. The unintentional outcome of loving others more deeply is that we are loved more deeply.
10. Let go of expectations.
You may look to things such as romance and constant togetherness to fill a void in yourself. This will immediately cause suffering. If you unconsciously expect to receive love in certain ways to avoid giving that love to yourself, you will put your sense of security in someone else.
Draw upon your own inner-resources to offer love, attention, and nurturance to yourself when you need it. Then you can let love come to you instead of putting expectations on what it needs to look like.